hostage

The success of our relationships often depends on our willingness to detach from the behavior of others.  How often have we thought, "If only he or she would . . . "   I spent many years quite certain that if others would only change, I'd be happy, free from anxiety, content that the future would be all that I deserved.  Try as I did, I was not successful in getting others to change.  Nor did I even understand the concept of detachment.  And now I am relieved that I am no longer held hostage by such folly. The burden of trying to be in control of the uncontr[...]